Written by Judy Epstein Friday, 15 February 2013 00:00
I’ll just come out and say it: I hate Valentine’s Day. As far as I’m concerned, it exists purely to make some people look bad, and almost everybody feel awful.
When I was single, Valentine’s Day seemed tailor-made to highlight the flaws in your relationship, if you had one, and in your entire life, if you didn’t. Now that I am married, Valentine’s Day just makes both of us crazy, running around to make sure we buy SOMEthing so as not to come home covered in guilt. But of course, all the somethings are way over-priced – they saw us coming a month away – so that even when I come home with one, I still feel taken advantage of. No “good love” there!
Starting in elementary school, it seemed as if this one day in the calendar existed just to show that some girls were WAY more popular than me (nobody then had a rule that “you must send one to everyone”). I still remember enviously eyeing the heaping mountain of valentines on the desk of one little girl, and comparing it with my own little pile.
When I grew up, V-Day became conspicuous as the day for which you didn’t have a date. It was like a tacky re-run of New Year’s Eve — except you can’t hide from all your friends by taking a convenient “ski trip” on a Thursday evening and be back at work the next day.
Once or twice I did have a date for the big night – which always served to kill the relationship, because at some point during the evening, I always felt compelled to ask, “So – are we a couple?” And, as J.P. Morgan can tell you, “If you have to ask, the answer is No.” (To be completely fair, his remark was about asking if you can afford a yacht, which is almost as expensive as a relationship, but the concept is there.)
I began to celebrate Valentine’s Day on Groundhog Day, instead. For one thing, it was a lot cheaper, since all I required was a weather report and a cup of hot chocolate. When the Bill Murray movie about Groundhog Day came along, that just helped me pull off the transformation.
I evolved my own rule of thumb for the day: If, first thing in the morning on Groundhog Day, you saw somebody’s shadow on your bedroom floor, well then, you might have six more weeks of a relationship…as long as you both stay scrupulously away from anything to do with Valentines!
Judy Epstein plans to stay in bed with her eyes shut until Valentine’s Day is safely past … but you can always reach her at alookonthelightside.com.
Friday, 17 May 2013 00:00
Legislator Judy Jacobs, (D-Woodbury) attended the recent Plainview-Old Bethpage CARES Project PACE NORC (Naturally Occurring Retirement Community) Walk sponsored by the Mid Island Jewish Community Center in Plainview. This Wellness Walk was filled with family activities, including face painting and a bouncy house. There was a community expo, a 50/50 raffle, live music and refreshments.
“It is a wonderful opportunity for everyone to come out, walk, get fit and have fun,” said Jacobs.
Thursday, 16 May 2013 00:00
The Plainview-Old Bethpage Board of Education unanimously approved of 15 tenure recommendations during a school board meeting last week. The boardroom was packed with family and friends of each tenure recipient. Assistant Superintendent for Human Resources Timothy Eagen commended them for the employees’ “efforts, hard work with our children and professionalism.”
From JFK High School, guidance counselor Christina Rivas-Laline and teachers Owen Dugan, Michael Horun and Jennifer Santorello were recommended; teacher Linda Curran from H.B. Mattlin Middle School and JFK; teacher Amanda Gundling from POB Middle School and H.B. Mattlin Middle School; teacher Rachel Quattrocchi from POB Middle School; teacher Risa Henkel from POB Middle School and JFK High School; teacher Brian Gurney from POB Middle School; social worker Marc Galloway from Parkway School and Old Bethpage School; District Psychologist Jennifer Strangio-Lott, district teacher Jennifer Hoffman; teacher Dina Futterman from Stratford Road School; teacher Tara Gaudreault from Pasadena School and teacher Debra Lovett from Parkway School.