When you wake up in the morning, what direction are you going to go on that day?

As an older person, should we try to make or do something unusual, or outstandingly wonderful every day? We have heard the classic line "Live every day as if it were your last."

Is that possible? Is it too difficult on a daily basis? Can't we just relax? Can't we just take it as it flows? Why force it?

Answer to the above questions!

Things will happen soon enough without your prodding them. From "out of the blue" will come such interesting, devastating or mind-numbing things, your eyes will cross and you will beg for peace and quiet, and to be left alone.

People crossing the street do not expect to be hit by a car, but it happens. You do not have to conjure anything up. Your children, your wife, your mailman, the garage guy will drop a bomb on you. Don't go seeking high adventure, it will come soon enough.

Listen to this true story I call "First Apartment." It was time to move and a new house had been bought. We were leaving our first, and till this day, only apartment. We sat in the car looking at the red bricks of the apartment house. The lobby with the cliché' furniture, nailed down to prevent thievery. The elevators that brought us up to 6C. Mr. Peterson the super, and his wonderful Scottish brogue.

I said to my wife, "Lorraine," as I backed up from my parking spot in front of the building, "Look at it and remember the good times, the birth of Cara, the visits from your sisters and the visits from my parents. It was great!"

Crash and whiplash! I hit the car parked behind me. I got out of my car and viewed the damage. No damage to my car, but the car behind us was leaking radiator fluid. What an ending!

Think back to your childhood days. Could you possibly have predicted the life you are living now? When I lived in the Bronx, as a child, I didn't even know where Long Island was. Yet, here I am, one wife, three kids, four grandkids later, and I can't recall how it all came together!

Don't fight the future - it will come soon enough.