Friday, 04 December 2009 00:00
I read with great sadness the mother’s letter to the editor, “Is It Too Late to Raise a Bully?” (Nov. 5) about the bullying her daughter has been subjected to by a peer group. David Paterson expressed his outrage and sorrow for the pain endured by this family in his letter to the editor on Nov. 5, and I share his feelings and offer my compassion and support as well.
Does anyone believe that this kind of behavior does not take place? The national press/media reports many cases of bullying and its terrible consequences. Isn’t it obvious that the mother is deeply anguished for her daughter because she is unable to protect her from the bullying? Hence, the caustic remarks she makes about the mothers of the bullies, who happen to also be volunteers. While it is regrettable that the mother paints volunteer mothers with a broad brush that is negative, the point of the letter is bullying and the pain it causes. It behooves all of us to keep that in mind. If you are one of the caring and supportive mothers who also happen to be volunteers, are you forever scarred or can you trace this mother’s comments to a deep hurt and sense of futility. I say, give her a break and think of how you might lend support.
Finally, I take umbrage with Craig Anderson’s letter “Setting a Bad Precedent.” It is Mr. Anderson who is setting a bad precedent by questioning the judgment of the editor to publish the letter anonymously. He, too, misses the point. The letter was about the pain and awful consequences of bullying a minor. There have been instances when various editors have published a letter with name withheld to protect the innocent. In this case, the decision by Pat Grace, editor, was the correct one.