For many of us the new year often brings hope and expectations. The celebration of the new year can inspire us to renew our commitments to our families, friends and to ourselves. The resolutions we make or eventually break are often dependent upon circumstances that surround us. Can we really afford to make a major purchase? Do I really feel motivated to accomplish my own personal goals?

This new year won't be significantly different than previous ones. The reality that our country is still at war, and that terrorism is still a threat to our security and safety, has truly altered the way many of us think, the way we behave, and the way we feel. Downtown America remains on a heightened state of alert. Given what has transpired over the past six years, one thing has become certain, and that is uncertainty itself. As we begin the new year, it is important to evaluate how we are coping with the impact of these realities upon our way of life and upon the quality of our life.

Coping in times of uncertainty can be difficult for children and families. We may feel frightened, or we may continue to feel upset by the impact that certain events have upon our daily routines or relationships. Children may also be affected during these times because of their sense of vulnerability and perceived feelings of being unsafe or unsure. A very young child's lack of understanding, and their limited ability to communicate how they feel, may also increase their sense of insecurity and result in changes in behavior patterns.

Except for some extreme circumstances, most of us will not develop serious or permanent psychological problems as a result of living in a world where our safety is called into question on a routine basis. As we continue to move forward, it is important to include all members of your family in your efforts to deal with periods of uncertainty. This will help keep your family together.

During these times when there is great concern for our safety, and the safety of others in foreign countries, it is no wonder we feel stressed. However, if your behavior or ability to cope in these times of uncertainty is impairing your ability to function at home, in school, or at work, you might want to consider reaching out to a mental health professional. In recent months, the community mental health programs available within our local communities have become critically important in helping many young men and women who are returning from Iraq and Afghanistan and have been affected by the war, to begin to recover. We have counseled people at-risk for post-traumatic stress disorder, and we have provided grief counseling to children and families. The stigma so often associated with mental health services has been slowly eroding since the events of September 11, 2001.

As we enter a new year in these times of uncertainty, it is important to take stock of our strengths and to realize our limitations. At least, let us resolve to invest in our own mental health. Should you or a loved one need help, please call Central Nassau Guidance and Counseling Services at 822-6111.